The painting above is ‘Forgiveness’ by Daniel Gerhartz. The following post is inspired by an account of Mary anointing Jesus’ feet, found in John 12. This took place shortly before Jesus’ death and resurrection.
Here You are, Lord.
I see you sitting across the table, long dark hair and brown eyes as familiar to me as my brother’s. We grew up together like cousins, running together as children. There was something different about you, something gentle and peaceful. You were kinder than the other boys. It seemed you had a good influence on them too. Lazarus would grow peaceful as he spent time with you. He grew stronger, more whole. It’s because of You he has grown into the man we know.
Lazarus, my brother: the one we lost but You gave him back to us. Four days in the grave and he walked out.
Not long ago, I fell at your feet on the dust. “Had you been here,” I cried to you. “He would not have died.” Hadn’t You travelled all through the land healing the sick? Did we mean so little to you that You could not travel here, to Bethany, to this familiar place and those who have been like family to you, to save us from death?
When You saw my tears, You cried too. The tears of the Messiah ran down dusty human skin. Your eyes and Your mouth were contorted, twisted with pain. My anger left me.
Here You are, Lord.
You sit before us at our table again. You have brought your band of followers, rowdy and unkept, spread around the room on stools and the floor. Sometimes I wonder why you’ve chosen men like these in all of their tempers and humanity. Yet I see them, slowly, become more like You.
I watch you talking with them. The lines on your face have grown deeper. There is sorrow somewhere deep within you. I can feel it with a sense beyond comprehension.
My heart has been tied to You since the beginning. It is not in the way a wife is devoted to her husband, or a child is devoted to her father, but something much deeper. It is how someone can only be tied to the One who made her, who breathed life into her lungs.
Yahweh, I’ve known You.
You have always been the one who sees me and knows me. There is no one who knows me better, not even Lazarus, not even Martha. There have been times when they’ve misunderstood me. They’ve mistaken my devotion for laziness. They’ve seen my affection as inappropriate. There are customs I’m supposed to follow, for the sake of propriety and modesty. But my attachment to You has always been stronger than any will I have to follow the rules of this time and this place. You are outside Bethany, outside Israel, beyond the sky, Lord. You are bigger than everything we can see.
Every chance I got, I sat at Your feet and listened. I cannot read like my brother, but I can hear. I memorised it all and put it together in my heart. I understand what is going to happen now. My Lord, the pain is almost too much to bear.
Here you are, Lord. This is the last time I will see you before you are killed.
My tears mingled with oil as I prepared the body of my brother for burial, the strong scent of nard didn’t leave our home for days, thick, heavy, pungent. I can still smell it when I come in from a day outdoors. Martha worked alongside me. I confess, Lord, we spoke of You with some confusion and pain. But Martha, who has changed so much since she opened her heart to You, said, “Whatever He asks of the Lord will be given to Him.”
I fought against the hope that tried to erupt in my broken heart. As I gazed upon my brother’s lifeless face, I couldn’t stop myself from asking, “You think Jesus will raise Lazarus from the dead?”
She didn’t answer.
The day You arrived, she had been waiting for You. She ran out to meet You. I don’t know what You spoke of together before she came to find me but her grief had left her. I think you told her Lazarus would rise. Together, we watched the impossible happen.
Here You are, Lord.
The room is noisy with cheerful sounds and bright with flickering candlelight. Lazarus sits near You. He has been full of laughter since he rose. Just weeks ago, his body was frail and almost lost to us. Now, wine glows pink on his cheeks. His eyes have a light that is from another world. Now, his belly shakes as he laughs at something Peter has said.
Martha is preparing food and serving it to your band of hungry men. Her eyes meet mine across the room. Her heart is as heavy as mine. She can feel it too.
I’m finding it difficult to join in with the laughter today.
You can tell something is different about me. Your gaze is on me across the table. I look into your familiar eyes, soft and brown as freshly turned earth, and find an answer to my question. I find permission.
As I slip into a darker corner of the room, only You and Martha are watching me. I find the jar of oil up high where we keep it safely tucked away. The memory of nervousness returns to me as I stand on my tip toes and slide the jar off the shelf. We could never go within a foot of this jar as children without Ima quickly saying, “Be careful near the alabaster. The oil inside costs a year’s wages. It comes from India, a very far away place.” More eyes are on me now.
I carry the jar carefully to You. The peace of Your presence fills me as I get close to You, like warm milk. Oh Lord, what will we do without You?
Laughter is fading. I hear only whispers. Tears start to fill my eyes as I imagine the room without You. Kneeling next to you, I let them pour down my cheeks. This is my favourite place in the world: by Your side and the last time I will kneel here.
“What’s she doing now?” one of the disciples mutters.
I cannot meet your gaze, Lord. The look in Your eyes will be too painful for me. I will miss You too much. I can only stare at Your feet. These are the dirty, blistered, human feet of my Teacher, the Messiah, with all of the hair and cuts and cracks I’d expect from any man’s feet. And yet, these are the feet of the Lord, the one who has come to rescue us.
Only through death can you rescue us. I know that now.
Looking around me, I realise I have nothing to wipe your feet with, so I uncover my hair. Several gasps cut the silence. Someone says something to Lazarus, some command to get me under control. He doesn’t move. I don’t care about any of them.
I look at the alabaster jar in my shaking hands. This is the most valuable thing we own. I want to pour it all out for you, everything I have. I let it fall to the hard floor and as it smashes into pieces. Martha and Lazarus look at each other. I feel something inside me break free.
I take the burial oil and melt bits of it liberally with my hands. As my fingertips meet the skin of your feet, something ripples through the depths of me. Though I have always sat as close to you as I can, I have so rarely touched you. Gently, I rub the oil into the cracked, dirty, holy skin. You do not recoil, not even when I use my hair to wipe off the dirt, the stringy tendrils covering your skin. You watch me. I apply more. The scent of nard pricks the memory of grief. Silently, my tears are falling onto your feet. Salt water mixed with hair, mixed with oil. The more oil I use, the more agitated the disciples become. I’m afraid they might pull me to my feet, oily hair hanging down around me, and throw me outside into the night. But I know You wouldn’t let them.
Now, I have finished rubbing the last of the oil into your feet, I look up into Your face for what I know will be one of the last times. I have known Your face for most of my life, yet I can see the agelessness of Yahweh deep in your eyes. I can see love there that no man or woman can fathom.
Judas is the first to speak. All this time, he’s been doing the maths in his head. He stands up and speaks to the room, his words sharp with accusation: something about the cost of the oil and what the money could have been used for. It feels disjointed to me, like he must be blind to the atmosphere in the room, like he’s missing the reality of Jesus’ impending death.
I only hear Your words, soft as You look into my eyes. “Leave her alone,” You say. You are smiling affectionately at me. “She has kept this for the day of my burial.” The understanding between us is deep, pulsing through my veins. I see a promise in Your eyes..
“The poor you will always have with you,” You say to Judas. To the rest of the disciples, You say, “You will not always have me.”
The disciples look at each other, shifting uncomfortably on the floor and stools around the table. Judas sits down. You keep looking at me. All of us remain quietly in the room, the air thick with the fragrance of burial oil.
I know now that You must die for us, and You must rise again. In Your eternal gaze, I see the promise. I will not always have You here, yet I will always know You.
My friend. My Messiah. My Teacher.
Yahweh.
John 12: 1-8
Six days before the Passover, Jesus came to Bethany, where Lazarus lived, whom Jesus had raised from the dead. Here a dinner was given in Jesus’ honor. Martha served, while Lazarus was among those reclining at the table with him. Then Mary took about a pint of pure nard, an expensive perfume; she poured it on Jesus’ feet and wiped his feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume.
But one of his disciples, Judas Iscariot, who was later to betray him, objected, “Why wasn’t this perfume sold and the money given to the poor? It was worth a year’s wages.” He did not say this because he cared about the poor but because he was a thief; as keeper of the money bag, he used to help himself to what was put into it.
“Leave her alone,” Jesus replied. “It was intended that she should save this perfume for the day of my burial. You will always have the poor among you, but you will not always have me.”